After years and years of trying to please other people`s images of what you should be, after trying to find out who you really are, you finally give up and accept other people`s images of who you are. But there is something in you that aspires to be free; He always tells you, “That`s not who I really am. That`s not what I really want. You`re not free to be who you really are because you`re trapped by images of what you think you should be. In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn more about the “domestication” of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As little children, it is our true nature to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should be, and because it`s not normal for us to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. Of course, what your mother tells you is not exactly what your father tells you, who you are, or what your siblings, television or church or the whole society tells you you you are. Everyone in your life projects a completely different image to you, and none of those images are accurate.
What you believe is a distorted image of yourself that came from other people – mirrors that always distort images. You can`t see yourself, so you believe you agree, and as soon as you agree, the image is programmed into your memory. All four deals© were released in 1997 and have sold about 9 million times. It`s been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those that we encounter ourselves. What were the images that others projected to you? When you say, “I`m smart, I`m stupid, I`m beautiful, I`m ugly,” these images are just knowledge or a lot of concepts. You form an image of perfection, an image of what you should be to be good enough, but you don`t fit that image.
. The Toltecen call this the dream of first attention, because this is the first time you use your attention to create a whole reality.. . . .